I try not to have them… They are not a good way to look at life. The most influential teacher I had in my life- my high school drama teacher Mr. Stern. He taught me this. In the highs and lows of my high school years, he often took the time to listen to me. He stopped me in a rant in the 12th grade and said "No. Don't regret that. Learn from it Jaymie. Learn. You can turn that bad decision into a learning opportunity. Grow from it. Do not regret things in life". At the time I did not appreciate this piece of advice as much as I should. I listened of course and took that advice and stuck it in my back pocket. It wasn’t until a couple years later, looking back on the fall out with my family and how I acted that I understood… I could not regret acting the way I did as that would leave me angry, resentful and unable to move forward. Instead I learned from it, grew from it and mended fences that needed to be mended.
This is something I try and live my life by. Bad things happen, I make bad choices and when life throws curve balls I have a tendency of reacting emotionally instead of taking the time to think it through.
Yesterday I ran into someone who used to be a friend of mine. Things ended badly and it has been 2 years since we have spoken. As I have just said, I do not like to regret things… But I regret the way things happened with that person. I have spent 2 years blaming them for the entire fall out, wanting to take no responsibility for my part in it all. Sounds fairly immature doesn’t it.
When I saw said person yesterday, I felt a little pang of regret. I regretted the way a friendship ended and how I handled myself. I wanted to say "Hey, lets go grab a beer and catch up". But then reality set in.
I laid in bed last night, my mind reeling. I know that I am a a better person today. I know I have grown from what happened. Ending that friendship will however have to remain in one of the few regrets in my life…
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